You Have a Choice
By now, I am sure many of you are aware of the saying, “neurons that fire together, wire together,” or you might be familiar with the concept of neuroplasticity.
These two concepts simply say that the more you let an action or pattern persist, the more your body will adapt and process that into your body's physiology and thus allowing your entire existence to express that pattern.
As we are barreling into 2020, it is a good time to reflect upon some of those patterns, actions, or feelings that we let ourselves express on a daily basis. Now, I am not saying every action or pattern that someone possesses needs to be reflected upon, but I am saying that it is worth taking a look at the bigger picture.
What is something that you have been wanting to achieve? What do you think has been holding you back from achieving said thing? Is it a specific pattern that has been clouding you from the very thing that could push you over the threshold?
For example, in my life, I have struggled with being more open with people and allowing people to love me and appreciate my existence. This stems from very specific moments in my life that have shaped that thought process in my mind. In the past, I have let this feeling destroy relationships, or worse yet, not even let them begin in the first place. I took a long, hard look at what it was in my life that was stopping me from making those connections. I realized that I was secluding myself from groups, quitting group projects because I didn’t think I was good enough to contribute, or sabotaging loving relationships because I didn’t find myself worthy.
In order to break this pattern, I had to make different choices. Let me tell ya, this was not easy for me, and is still a work in progress. One of the bigger choices I made in attempt to break this pattern was joining The Legendary Chiropractor. A year ago, had the founder, Johnny, asked me to join, I most likely would have declined. Another example is my relationship with my significant other. Being in a relationship is hard work, and in previous relationships I have always bailed out before we could even attempt to work on the hard stuff. I truly didn’t believe I was worthy of the love. In my current relationship, I have looked at myself more than I have in my entire life. I have been challenged to show up, even when it was tough. And it has paid off in more ways than one. I have learned what some of my patterns are in a relationship and I have learned to speak my opinion or hold my ground when I feel like something isn’t going right.
What made all of this possible for me? CHOICE. You cannot change or break a pattern without consciously making the choice to do something different. Depending on how long that pattern has existed in your being, it may feel a bit strange at first; it may even feel like you are making the wrong decision. Your body and your brain, because the two do not exist separately, will attempt to pull you back into your comfort zone. Fight it. Keep making those choices that you believe will put you closer to the life you want to live. An easy way for me to keep track of this is to journal and to simply talk about it with someone. I call them my “accountability buddies.”
Let’s make this year the best one yet. Continue to strive, continue to make choices that align with your vision, and continue to open up your heart to all the love that does still exist in the world.
Stay weird, speak truth, love fully,
Kylie at The Legendary Chiropractor